Wow, what a difference not being slammed at work makes. I was in such a better mood yesterday, top that off with a relaxing weekend and even my coworkers could tell I was in a better mood and I know the boyfriend could as I finally started to relax a little.
I was reading Katheats.com and she was talking about how she was trying to simplify what she ate so she could maintain her weight loss. She had heard from someone that they ate the same thing every day for breakfast and for lunch for over 20 years and maintained their weight to a T. I’m not going to discredit this at all because my mother eats the same thing every day for breakfast and for lunch, sure every once in awhile it will deviate slightly, but overall it is the same thing for both meals every day. So I began to think, is this something I could do? Nope was the answer that came very quickly. I love to try new things, I love salads sometimes but sometimes I’m in the mood for a sandwich or soup. The other morning I wanted salad and Mac and Cheese for breakfast, so that’s what I had. I don’t want to be confined to eating just one thing over and over again. Oh btw, I had the same salad for lunch yesterday as I did the day before
Instead of 20/20/20
yesterday I did a 30/30 to get my hour of cardio in. I have to admit the stairmaster portion almost killed me. I was soaked in sweat by the time I got off, but I know I have a race coming up in July and I want to be able to run even when I’m starting to get fatigued, so I jumped on the treadmill and did 30 minutes. I managed to hit the 3 miles 10 seconds before 29 minutes which made me pretty pleased. The playlist I used is below
After my workout I was so lucky to come home to dinner almost done. The boyfriend had gone out in the rain and grilled some fantastic pork chops which I ate every last bite and then made me some smiles
which I absolutely adore! I needed something semi healthy so I quickly whipped up some spinach to go along with it.
Dinner was so fantastic though and I was so satisfied it was the first night in awhile I didn’t eat dessert.
When I asked a few weeks ago if anyone had any book recommendations my mom came back with the book below. I have to wonder how she found this book…
By: Tom Perrotta
Wow was this novel heavy. It starts out with an introduction to the main characters Todd and Sarah by splitting the first person character between the two. Then it goes even further by using first person for all the characters in the story at one point or another. The story is based in Boston suburbia surrounding stay-at-home moms and Todd who is a stay-at-home father along with an introduction to a child molester about 1/10th of the way into the story. The further I got into this story the more I enjoyed it and by the end it became something that I couldn’t put down.
Sarah is a former feminist bisexual in her late 20’s or early 30’s who is in a loveless marriage and has a young daughter Lucy, who she loves dearly but sees as a hindrance on all that she could have been. She doesn’t fit in with the other mothers yet also doesn’t fit in to her former lifestyle. She is at a point in her life where she really doesn’t know what direction she needs to go in. Todd is a former jock who has a perfect body and the perfect wife who is trying to pass the bar and stays at home with his young son, Aaron, while his wife films documentaries. He doesn’t want to become a lawyer and is perfectly happy staying at home with their son, but realizes this isn’t something his wife is ok with in the long run. Both bring their children to the same playground where they eventually run into each other.
The story unfolds more around the two as they start to have an affair and the trials that come along with it. The characters of this story are very well developed due to the fact that a lot of the time it is first person, even for minor characters within the story. I found this book very sad, and every time the child molester was in first person, very disturbing. I know having an affair is some sort of common practice now days, and even more prevalent in ideal suburbia, where the wife stays at home all day with the children and the husband is away at the office. It is so common that there are now articles stating that to be in a monogamous relationship is actually against human nature and we shouldn’t fight the urges anymore.
I’m not a prude by any means and I’m not deeply religious or spiritual but I do believe that when you make a commitment to someone in the form of marriage that includes not cheating on them emotionally or physically, ever. One of my friends fathers once put it “it doesn’t matter where you get your appetite, as long as you have dinner at home” which I fully agree with. I’m not stating that people should walk around with blinders on and only think of their spouse as sexual and everyone else as convent members, but you should respect the person enough not to cause them pain for your instantaneous pleasure. A relationship isn’t always rainbows and butterflies, but a living thing that needs to be nurtured and taken care of and is as much work as raising a child or pet.
I also found the parts on the child molester unnecessary. He didn’t add anything to the story just a lot of uncomfortable reading. I’m always willing to go outside my comfort zone, but this was just a little too far over the line for me. Reading through Tom Perrotta’s Q&A you see that he didn’t want to go too far into the mind of a child molester which is why it is never really told from that characters point of view, just the characters around him and how they react to him. Which leads me to ask, why even have him in the story?
This book, I found out, has been made into a movie a few years ago which I have added to my list of things to watch. Although I didn’t love the story I liked it enough to watch it come to life on the screen.
What books have you read that you have been uncomfortable with?
I remember when I was about 8 or 10 for some reason my dad’s ex wife got me the book Billy. It scared the #$%^ out of me for many years. Sure made me not want to go near any strangers that’s for sure.